Carl Jung spoke of the "Collective Unconscious" to which we are all connected. I like that concept, unprovable as more than a metaphor, but useful. He felt it was the root of the parallels in myths all over the world. It is how good people tend to find each other and, unfortunately, evil-doers tend to flock to each other. It is why we cry when we see sad movies and when we see children hurt on the playground. It is why we gasped when we first saw the video of the killing of George Floyd. The Collective Unconscious also has a "Shadow" or Dark Side, according to Jung's writings. It holds the unresolved ills of all consciousness. It transfers the "sins of the parents" to the children to be dealt with. It is both why most Americans in my generation grew up with a relatively neutral image of the horrors of slavery, glorified in "Dixie" and why some still struggle to keep those horrors "in the past" or buried in the unconscious. Fortunately, the Collective Unconscious is what prods us to have empathy and to forgive. For too long, this balance has rendered our culture silent, but that silence has been broken and may not be silenced again.
What IS the Issue?
The issue is the abscess that is Racial Injustice is 400 years old and has been festering and developing pressure. COVID19 squeezed the abscess and Mr. Floyd's murder was the pointed knife that has given the putrid rage a way out. It must not be sealed up, covered over or ignored or it will poison our system and the chaos will continue to rule. It, like any abscess, must be drained, packed with healing and slowly allowed to heal from the depths of the Collective Unconscious, lest it just return, with fortified encasement to build up more tension, anger and destructive putrification.
Bumper Sticker: Sometimes, The Problem is NOT the Issue!
The target at which we must focus the rage in order to find healing is all the institutions that have treated so many humans with so little civility in the name of "Justice." They have known since birth that their life was not valued by many, that, because of the color they wear in their skin, their life is devalued by those with lighter skin, just as the value of others of color are less valued. If you haven't watched the three NBC Today anchors talk about how they fear for their children and themselves, go to the website and watch it.(Today Video - watch to at least 13:00) Watch it over and over. I cried when I heard a mother say that her children cried when they heard that a policeman could kill a man and not be arrested and asked, if that wasn't the job of police, to protect. They had to begin learning their heritage, imposed by the world.
This process is not going to be easy. We are going to have to see the "Us-vs-Them mentality as the most divisive tool in the argument and realize that we are one planet. Brian McLaren, in his book Why Did Jesus, Moses, The Buddha and Mohammed Cross the Road, discusses the root of this problem, which is that it is not an external conflict. The real conflict is that, if we truly embrace "them" and see how our "us-ness" threatens us, we could lose our membership in Us. The fear on each side of the argument is, at least in part, fear of being thrown to the wolves by being ejected from "Us."
From where it sits now, the Police and all that they represent ("Us") are going to have to sit on the ground, unarmed, and silent, facing the protesters and admit in a genuine fashion that the "Us" represent the root cause of their deeper rage and have participated in it, both consciously and unconsciously, much of the time benefitting from it. All of the members of the "Us" team have to bring our fears and, like the fighting wolves, admit that we do not have what it takes to win and bare our proverbial throats, then admit nothing can ever fully compensate for all the harm that has been done. This is one of the first principles in learning to express our understanding of the losses caused by actions of generations that echo in every day, every place and every time. This will lead to learning to show the kind of empathy that has no words and, often, is spoken only in the weeping that comes when two souls connect and see how fragile and frail the other is and how impotent we are to ease their pain. All that humans can do can do is love them, whatever that means, in a way that reaches into hearts and changes lives. Yes, some things we think are precious will be sacrificed. By learning to grieve those privileges and accept a more just and balanced culture, even doing without many things we really don't need, but feel entitled to. A certain level of "profit" may be lost. Finding out how to admit that the disdain that drives distance and fear for those who are different is ours and not about the "Thems" allows us to begin to focus on similarities, even if it is only the fact that, in the end, when we return to dust. Learning that letting go of power does not mean losing strength, especially, when sharing power with those who have never barely had any. This can build trust that this country that we created is enough and will be enough for us all, and accepting that it will not be in the way it looks today.
For those who have been hurt, this means that fighting "Us" will never correct the wounds you carry in your genes and in the Collective Unconscious that only you have access to. Beginning to heal this may well take a shift like this planet has never seen to move from fighting and defending to working in tandem. Healing the losses of generations by grieving all the hopes that have been dashed and all the dreams that never made it to daylight. To embrace and accept those losses and move them on to a safe place to continue to honor the grief they need to heal from within each time the sun shines the memory of them again. Do not let them be forgotten until they are celebrated as the foundation of our future. This will take learning to look into the eyes of those who you have feared and begin to find the same light you see in the mirror, flickering behind the fear and defenses, then begin to show your light to them. In doing so, letting go of whatever image you had forced upon you by generations will help you to see yourself differently, free of the constraints of fighting the past, accepting that age-old unmet needs of the past that reside deep in your genetic vibration. Somewhere in the soul of the beat of those vibrations is the connection with "Mama" in all her manifestations ripped from you over and over. The answers are in the faces that have been afraid to look into the pain. Only you can guide the way to answer the call, knowing it won't be fulfilled ever in its hisoric dissonance, then embracing the healing anyway.
When we join together to make a long term, long range plan that all can live with, hurt with and be patient with, accepting that the old thought patterns and stereotypes will not disappear immediately, new visions are able to form. I feel guilty to admit that I still have to look into the eyes of a black man when we cross the street to remind myself that he did not get out of bed this morning to find a way to hurt me. It hurts to see how difficult that is sometimes - he fears looking at me. Nobody ever told me that, but it is stuck somewhere in my Amygdala, the warning center of my brain. I have to tell it to be quiet. I once told a very big Black friend of mine, very timidly, that I was really scared of him when he first introduced himself to me. I told him, long after he had demonstrated that he was smart, kind, gentle, understanding and creative, that this was my old truth. He was puzzled. He came back to me a few days later and told me that another Caucasian friend of his, about my age, admitted the same thing. He just shook his head and chuckled. Today, reminding him how glad I didn't act on my scaredy-cat feelings gives us a laugh and helps me to, hopefully, make amends for my stereotype. By embracing and learning to appreciate each other's cultures as unique, not from a point of judgment, but from curiosity and understanding, we see individuals in a new light. We have so much to teach each other about ourselves that we really need to waste as little time as we can fighting about it .
Some will lose some things we think we value. Some will gain more than we ever thought we could. If it keeps us out of this explosive state we are in, we will be glad when all the work is done. I know Black people and people of all colors have it in them to make it. They survived a culture that was unwelcoming, even hostile and made their way to have their foothold to be heard today. We must keep talking and listening.....all of us. The REAL issue is that we never listened to the cries of those we were hurting and we never turned the cries into a conversation. We were afraid of "Us" reprimanding us and did not know that "Them" was not a threat. We all have tears to shed and laughter to share. Thanks for reading this.